A little black boy born in England Making the transition from a boy to a man Trying to find his purpose on earth Will he find his worth? Came to Jamaica this little island Living in St.Thomas, please understand It has now become a sin As his message is fire burning in wind His efforts will go in vain As it seems he alone bears the pain Our heroes cry when he cries And if not heard this boy dies He cannot believe and is very much sorry The island of Bob Marley, Louise Bennett and Donald Quarry Can have such a crime rate Or ever reach this state How can he say he is free? When mentally we are in captivity He may be wrong But we have not learned from ‘Redemption Song’ Louise sees us lose our culture to crime And it’s just a matter of time Before Bolt gives up the race As we have lost pace People of Jamaica bring joy To this little black boy As they taught him ‘It is good to be happy as life flows along But how will you look when things go wrong For the man worthwhile Is the man that greets bad times with a smile? Why claim freedom When left free-dumb Celebrate independence Yet left in-de-pen-dense That black boy is lost Find him at any cost
My Dream Girl By Nolad Senoj A lady so beautiful Her characteristics wonderful A lady with a peace of mind Who is pure, open hearten and kind? Your father must have been an astrologer to put stars in your eyes Because when you look at me my body lights up as my heart cries The bond between us is like that of magnetic devices But to explain that is another crisis I classify you as a lady And with You I will produce a baby That fire which is inside of you and will burn To keep it blazing is my major concern Your supreme intelligence This brings out your magnificence Your bravery and determination Makes me stronger in times of deterioration You made me aware That yesterday is history Tomorrow might be a mystery But today is a gift like you That’s why it’s called the present You are a precious treasure And to even know you is a great pleasure
5 Relationship Zones Worse than the Friend Zone . The Internet loves hating on “the friend zone,” because the Internet sees friendship as the highest form of torture a horrible woman can impose on a sweet and infallible man, because the Internet is patrolled by the young and immature.
I’m not here to explain that “being in the friend zone” says less about the person who “put” you there than it does about the skewed way you view relationships (although, yes, someone should teach you that at some point). I am here to tell you that you’re focusing so much energy on avoiding the friend zone that you’re missing the REAL threats …
#5. The “No One I’m Interested in Is Attracted to Me” Zone
Everyone finishes the occasional date feeling like there wasn’t any connection, but when you’re in this zone, you finish every interaction like this. You have such high demands for similarity that anything short of a carbon copy of you is going to be deemed alien and distant by your crazy-ass brain, and you’ll force them away from you with a defensive preemptive rejection. Because the truth is, your brain has tricked you into thinking that people who are attracted to you aren’t worth your time.
It’s counter-intuitive, because “high standards” is a good thing in most contexts, like choosing what brick to build your house out of or what gas to put in your car, but human beings aren’t made of brick or gasoline or anything else you can buy, so if your “standards” are anything other than “Does this person make me really happy and horny a lot?” then you’re unnecessarily narrowing your options and missing out on some killer sex. It’s not that no one is happy being alone, and it’s not that you should just “take whatever you can get.” But if you find yourself scanning prospective mating partners for flaws rather than just enjoying their company, your whole approach to other humans could probably do with some revisions.
Pop culture has given us an insane and unrealistic perception of what human relationships are, and the most insane recent example has got to be from How I Met Your Mother, when the German character Klaus tells Ted that Lebenslanger Schicksalschatz (or “love,” because the joke is that German words are long) “isn’t something that develops over time. It is something that happens instantaneously,” which is the most psychotic relationship advice that hasn’t been banned from Kickstarter.
Love doesn’t work like facial recognition software or Ikea furniture, because it’s a feeling, and when you’re used to being lonely, even the best kind of companionship in the world can be scary.
#4. The “I Always Need to Be in a Relationship” Zone
If the description in that last entry sounds like it could’ve been written by a space alien, that may be because for you, getting into a relationship has never been that hard. You know all the tricks: If you’re shy, there’s beer or spirits. If you don’t like beer or spirits, there’s OK Cupid, where you can organize your life’s stats like a D&D character. And if you’re a fundamentally uninteresting person, you can take people to karaoke bars. For you, the hard part of a relationship isn’t getting someone to like you or want to spend the night naked — for you, the hard part is being OK when that’s not happening.
No one likes loneliness, because if they do they don’t call it loneliness, they call it “me time.” But for some people it’s not just a bummer, it’s a paralyzing fear. Not having someone to call who has to answer means that you might have to spend a few nights alone, getting to know yourself and your own thoughts and, it can be scary, what if you suck?
For every girl out there who’s too afraid to smile back at the cute guy at the opposite end of the bar, there’s a girl who’d rather spend her night humping a total stranger than wake up by herself. The one that sounds like less of a problem to you can probably give you a pretty big hint as to which category you need to work on.
#3. The “We’ve Been Doing This Forever, We May as Well Stick With It” Zone
The original draft of The Last House on the Left featured the father of the hero, Dr. John Collingwood, murdering a serial killer with a scalpel. His strategy was to hit him in a thousand small places, until the killer would finally die from a thousand tiny cuts. Wes Craven eventually replaced it with a chainsaw because a) chainsaws are awesome, and b) he didn’t want his movie to be a metaphor for a common relationship problem.
Breakups aren’t always big, covered in serrated metal teeth, and explosively violent — some are long and slow and end with both parties collapsing exhausted by both lack of restful sleep and blood loss. When you aren’t naturally confrontational and you get into a relationship with someone who is just as used to making small concessions as you, it’s easy to just get along without actually being happy. For years, you find yourself thinking, “Sure, we don’t like much of the same stuff, and we like to spend our free time differently, and we don’t agree on anything, but we’re rarely actually fighting (if you’re not swearing or throwing stuff, it isn’t fighting), so maybe this is as good as it gets.”
The dirty trick at the core of this issue is that you’ll be forced to break up for what feels like selfish reasons (“I need to see what else is out there”; “There has to be more to relationships than this”; “I really wanna explore the world”) even though it’s really what’s best for everyone.
#2. The “Staying in Contact Forever” Zone
This might be a new zone, invented in the past decade or so, which makes it all the more terrifying: the “staying in contact” zone, which has been made all the worse by Facebook, Twitter, cellphones, and the rest of the secretly evil marvels of technology.
But to understand this zone of the future, we, paradoxically, must first look backward, into the zones of the past. So come with me, Internet friends, on a journey to the time of Dracula.
When Jonathan Harker (Keanu Reeves) went to Dracula’s castle, he left behind the beautiful Mina Murray (Winona Ryder), but they stayed in contact with letters. But letters take time to travel, so this relationship was tempered with patience and love, and then Harker boned a bunch of vampire babes in Dracula (Gary Oldman)’s basement (careful with that link, there are boobs). These days, that relationship could never have happened that way because Mina would’ve texted Jonathan “goodnight, sweetheart!” right before that girl … bit his thing off, or whatever the hell it is she’s doing. And then he would’ve felt embarrassed and called the whole thing off.
When you’re in a messed up relationship, the hardest part is pulling yourself out, or never texting that person again when you’re drunk or just lonely. But with modern social media, that’s gotten even harder. It’s not enough to simply stop calling them; you have to unfriend them on Facebook (a proactive step), and even then you’re going to see them in your feed if you have any mutual friends, and your cellphone might auto correct weird words to their name, or you may have interactions on something called Snap chat, because what the hell is that. Oh, it’s a social media app with a constantly changing TOS and interface, just like every other social media app. Keeping up with the latest trends on the Internet isn’t just about keeping in touch with your friends — it’s about not keeping in touch with them, too. And sometimes that’s a whole lot harder.
#1. The “I Don’t Want to Ruin the Friendship” Zone
Surprise! This is what the actual friend zone is!
If you’ve ever been in “the friend zone,” remember that you weren’t put there by anyone but yourself, and for evidence you need look no further than the episode of Friends that popularized the term (according to Wikipedia).
Ross wants to sleep with Rachel, and Rachel doesn’t know, and Ross is trying to work up the courage to tell her, and Friends lasted 10 seasons on that joke. You might be thinking that Rachel is horrible for forcing Ross into that situation by not just sleeping with him, if you’re the kind of sociopath who thinks that women are responsible for every problem that befalls a man. The real problem there is that Ross doesn’t respect himself enough to act on his feelings and doesn’t respect Rachel enough to be honest. He’s kind of a prick, because secretly wanting to be intimate with someone but not telling anyone because you want to manipulate them into sexing you without being honest about your intentions means that you’re kind of a prick.
Friendship and romance are different. You can’t trade one for the other. If you’re in love with one of your friends, then you’ve already ruined the friendship through the simple involuntary act of wanting to fuck them. If you wanna wait it out and try to be friends again, do that. If you wanna act on it, do that. If you wanna sit on the sidelines and try to puppeteer a person into sleeping with you without letting them know that’s what you’re trying to do, then you’re only technically not a rapist. And I wouldn’t put that on a T-shirt, either.
For some men, a great or even good woman, is too good to be true. Feelings of doubt often surface with the man asking himself, do I deserve this woman? Is she for real? Just what are her plans?
A great woman will have a man thinking on a level he never knew existed, with even the ‘thug’ becoming more attuned with his ‘feminine side’ in the company of a good woman. A woman who is able to facilitate a change in his attitude, his perspective and inspire in him a healthy respect for life itself.
A man may only come across three good women during his lifetime – his mother often being one of them! However, not all men can cope with a strong woman and a great woman can either make or break a man.
Many of the great women I have met have been black. Black women who have overcome many obstacles: including racism, sexism, and mother/professional/house wife – separating the emotional distress and concealing it. Most black men find it difficult to deal with a strong independent Black Woman. They suddenly feel somehow inferior – that somehow they may lose their position of ‘authority’ as suddenly, the man who is used to being the bread winner, appears as though in competition with his woman – probably even relegated to playing the supporting role.
It can be a hard pill to swallow especially when your woman is successful and good at what she does. But you know something – guys like me are proud of such talent guys like me are proud and supportive of our strong women. As a community we need to be supportive towards such women. Support the strong women is a vital element in order for talent and communities to flourish – and a flourishing community makes it so much easier in our everyday struggles against the world.
How a man chooses to deal with the great and good women he meets during his lifetime is solely in his hands, as it may become increasingly difficult for a successful woman to share her time with him.
So make the most of your times together while you can, whether the female is a friend, girlfriend or other – as there are great benefits to be gained from the close association with the female ‘of the species,’ who in general have so much to offer and who most times think then act – where we men most times act and then try to think of a way out of a situation!
It’s sad though as some of the great women of this world often find themselves choosing the wrong man for all the wrong reasons, narrowing their preference to physical appearance and, or financial assets with personality falling last on the list. Inevitable many get hurt in the process and as a result their social interaction with men is reduced as they keep everything on a strictly professional level.
Chances need to be taken, its apart of life, but please our great women, choose well and avoid stereotype. I know as great women you deserve the very best, in physical appearance, assets, success and personality but those men are so very rare and when they are available, they are being chased by so many females they cannot cope. Often such men may go through something akin to a metamorphosis. They begin dating much too many women and start acting up before becoming very demanding or possessive of women in general. In other words you may meet a great woman or man but that does not necessary mean they will be great for you.
It’s not about finding the perfect lover – it’s about finding the LOVER PERFECT for you. Sometimes neutral is best or you may find you have to perform what you’d call a balancing act, whether that means a multicultural relationship or a relationship between couples with opposing financial status, WHATEVER!
So guys learn to appreciate your great women as we – both men and women – all have something to offer. The most important thing is knowing how to get the best out of your partner which can only come to fruition when you have been providing that all important support.
Many times we are afraid to pursue the things we believe in. For those afraid to live dreams, most times at best are content getting paid working on a bolder dreamer’s vision. We most times call these jobs and they seek to give us enough to be dependent so we always return. I leave this with my EPIK people, Believe in you and you believe in greatness.
Like A Candle in the Wind By Nolad Senoj If ever I had the chance To give love as good as romance I would gain redemption If shown a little affection To show love and passion Now seems out of fashion It now seems a risk To give a kiss It may seem unkind But I must speak my mind If loving someone is a sin My love will be a candle in the wind Love seems lost and I must fear That peoples no longer care It’s hard to understand But how do I persuade a man? To give his love, soul and heart And love can tear him apart It might be hard to sustain But you have everything to gain Lovers do not give up, the sky is the limit So people just work with it And my ‘celebrity crew’ No matter what they say or do You are nothing less Than the best People will talk Let them talk This is just civics Let me link you with lyrics